No doubt about it,the history of mankind has been filled and laced with one sort of struggle,pain and loggerhead at one point in time.
Mankind has offended each other in one way or the other in the process of time and this has been the reality from one generation to another till this present moment.
One thing that is factual and real is that nothing could be done to avoid offence from one party of individual to another party of individual.Offence and grudges against one another is as real as the life we live everyday.
While offence might be by mistake and unintentional, forgiveness of one another should be intentional and quick without dragging or delaying.
Dragging or delaying to forgive makes issues that trigger offences to degenerate to a point whereby forgiveness might become difficult or unnecessary.
In view of this,there is a need to consider some basic steps that initiates and facilitates forgiveness.
These basic steps are tagged:
THE FORGIVENESS FACILITATORS.
As it has been submitted that forgiveness is an intentional act,one needs to know how the act of forgiveness can be swift, speedy and timely in order to salvage the situation that trigger offences and grudges before it degenerates to deeper act of evil that could harm and hurt others or the parties involved.
These forgiveness facilitators could be termed:
THE 4R’S THAT ENHANCES FORGIVENESS.
These are:
1.Restitution:
Often times than none,offences are triggered by attitude and characters that plays on other people intelligence which could be summarised as cheating.Cheating has always been a major cause of offence that always make one party or the other to take offence against each other.
Before any meaningful intention to forgive can become a reality,a sort of root causes analysis must be carried out to understand the laying down factor that trigger offences leading to grudges.This can only be carried out successful by restitution.
Restitution is an intentional act that has to do with restoration or a condition of restoring what has been taken away,stolen or by any other form that makes the other party to feel bad.
2.RESOLUTION
Forgiveness can only be total and meaningful when it is facilitated through the ambience of resolution.There is a need for the parties concerned to see a reason for them to sit down,dialogue and fashion a way out whereby they can jaw-jaw about the issue that trigger offences between them or among them and strike a balance whereby they can resolute on such an issue.
In the cause of resolution,no one should be blamed.There must be a balance that portrays no winner and no vanquish mantra that was used as a source of resolution in Nigeria after the civil war.
3.RECONCILIATION
Reconciliation involves an intentional act of looking at issues the way others are looking at it.This requires deep humility from the parties involved by making sure that the concept of equity and equality is the anchor of settling the conflict on ground.
Reconciliation is a deliberate act of coming into terms with other people’s view by accepting it the way it is .
This is one of the major keys that facilitates conflict resolution across the length band breadth of the entire world.
There must genuine reconciliation before forgiveness can be carried out.
Concerned parties must put down there terms and condition which must be reconciled with others before any form of forgiveness can take place.
4.RECONSTRUCTION.
Grudges,offences and conflicts are destructive act to some extent that pull apart mankind leading to suffering and backwardness.
Once such form of inhumanity is on ground,it’s purpose is always retrogressive and it leads to destruction that could only be salvaged by the concerned parties when there is a consensus to build all over again.
Reconstruction is essential for a genuine form of forgiveness to take place.Concerned parties must sit down together to relate and talk about the loss that has taken place in the course of conflict and loggerhead.
Such losses or destruction could only be carried out by the parties involved in consensus to build all over again.
Hence,the need for reconsideration of purpose and views that will enhance reconstruction leading to forgiveness is essential, mandatory, necessary and important.
Reconstruction of views,values and purpose between the concerned parties can never be jettissioned but it is essential in forging ahead in ensuring that forgiveness takes its full force of yoking already shattered relationship together again.
In conclusion,these are the 4R’s necessary in facilitating the purpose of forgiveness in bringing nations,mankind,organisations, individuals and humanity together by entrenching peace, tranquility and harmony in human existence that has been scarce across the length and breadth of the entire world.
Thank you.
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